Carolyn Hax: If your boyfriend can’t take a compliment, then you’ll need to take a hint

Your boyfriend is uncomfortable with compliments. Should you edit yourself around him? ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌

Sign up for this newsletter Read online Advice to help you tackle life's problems.     (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) If your boyfriend can't take a compliment, then you'll need to take a hint Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I've noticed that my boyfriend can't take a compliment. He responds by changing the subject, deflecting it some other way, or simply remaining silent. I tell him he's handsome and he'll reply, "So are you" — we're a gay couple — or, "What's for dinner?" or with silence. For the record, I've noticed he does the same thing with others, whether friends of his or strangers. He just can't say "Thank you," or internalize it in any way. In my opinion, he is stunning, physically and otherwise. He's very smart, which is sexy. So I tell him so. Often. It's what I want to say. But if I know if makes him uncomfortable, should I not put him through it? Should I dial it back? I want to sing his talents to the heavens but if it just makes him uncomfortable, should I edit myself and not let him know what I think of him? — Complimentary Read Carolyn's Response     ADVERTISEMENT   Want more? Carolyn's been writing her advice column for two decades. Explore the archives below. My aging dad has traveled to visit annually — until now. I'm crushed. Read more »   We need to talk about money, honey bunny Read more »   A grieving relative and a wedding's pressures Read more »     We think you'll like this newsletter Check out Lean & Fit for expert advice on how to eat right, get lean and stay fit, including curated healthy recipes every Wednesday. Sign up »

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