Carolyn Hax: An expat invited friends to visit, then friends invited the world

An expat invited friends to come visit, not anticipating they'd invite other people to join them. What does the host do now? ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌

Sign up for this newsletter Read online Advice to help you tackle life's problems.     (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) An expat invited friends to visit, then friends invited the world Dear Carolyn: My family lives as expats every few years. We have lived in odd locations in the past and our loved ones have been reluctant to come see us. This time, our location is more desirable. I extended several invitations to friends and family to visit us. Some accepted, while others declined. Two friends have now invited several family members. When I invited friends to come see us, in my mind I had invited just the people I communicated with initially, not the family members they invited. I never indicated my invitation extended to the entire family. My friends, I believe, think this is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to see another country with their loved ones and stay with us free. While I am glad to have the company, I am also a little irritated at all the secondary invitations. Was it unreasonable of me to invite friends without expecting them to invite family members? Is there a polite way to limit visit time or visitors under these circumstances? — Exasperated Expat Read Carolyn's Response     ADVERTISEMENT   Want more? Carolyn's been writing her advice column for two decades. Explore the archives below. A name game a grandmother must avoid for the sake of family bonds Read more »   Wife asks if husband's friends dislike her, and they do; what now? Read more »   An outpouring of goodwill leaves a puddle of guilt Read more »     We think you'll like this newsletter Check out A Better Week for a 7-day email course that will help you conquer your calendar, get more done and find time for the things you care about. Sign up »

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