Carolyn Hax: Can they find the right chore balance during boyfriend’s busy season?

A couple is moving in together just as one of them hits his busy season at work, and the other fears the precedent of getting stuck with all the chores. ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌

Sign up for this newsletter Read online Advice to help you tackle life's problems.     (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) Can they find the right chore balance during boyfriend's busy season? Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I'm moving in with my fiance. Unfortunately, it's at the worst time of the year. His business — which he owns and is trying to keep going during the pandemic — is at its busiest, and he's working 60-80 hours a week for the next two months. We both knew this was happening, but the right apartment came along. I fully support his business and understand this situation is temporary. Yet I'm a bit wary that the first few months of living together will be me doing all the cooking, cleaning, chores, etc. Any suggestions on how I end this precedent? I don't mind pitching in while times are unusual, but I'm also wary of how to change a trend that starts when I move in. — Setting a Precedent Read Carolyn's Response     ADVERTISEMENT   Want more? Carolyn's been writing her advice column for two decades. Explore the archives below. Husband has trouble trusting again after two affairs Read more »   Brother thinks sister's altruism is a ploy to gain points with mom Read more »   When in-laws roll their eyes at your food choices, go with your gut Read more »     We think you'll like this newsletter Check out Coronavirus Updates for news to help you stay safe and informed during the pandemic. Access to all stories in the newsletter is free. Sign up »

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