 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Hi, Carolyn: My brother and I are estranged for reasons that are reasonable to me (and to my therapist). One bone of contention for him — just one vertebra in an ossuary of contention, really — is that I have not made a pilgrimage to meet his new child. I'd like to have a relationship with his child, and for my children to know their cousin, but contact with my brother is always deeply, lingeringly awful. He doesn't visit my kids. I feel comfortable with the boundaries I've drawn with him but am not sure how those translate to the next generation beyond sending gifts, pictures, etc. Basically, I don't want to get on a plane to make a ceremonial visit to satisfy his sense of misplaced propriety — but since my choice affects his child, I don't feel as comfortable with the line I've drawn as I do about the lines I've drawn with him. He won't share pictures of his kid with me and restricts all access until I make this trip, which of course won't solve our other lifelong issues. What would you do? — Estranged Sibling | 
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