 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Hi Carolyn: I'm 34, and my husband is 33. Married for four years. When we got together, we both wanted kids, no question. Now, my husband is not sure parenthood is compatible with our lifestyle — demanding jobs we're both devoted to, mostly childless friends, live in a kid-unfriendly area. I still want kids. He had promised me he would commit to a decision by this summer, but he now says, because of the pandemic, he hasn't been able to give it the mental energy it deserves. Meanwhile, I'll be 35 in a couple months and am acutely aware of what that means. I would very much regret not having children. I'm also aware that he may have forever to decide, but I don't, and so I have been thinking about freezing eggs. My research about it offends him. He thinks that if he decides he wants kids, then we don't need frozen eggs; and if he decides he doesn't, then my freezing eggs is a way of implying we will eventually split up. Financially, I can do it with or without his help, but I don't know how okay it is ethically. I lie awake worrying about this more nights than I don't. What should I do? — Awake | 
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