 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My husband grew up with all four grandparents living within 10 miles of his family. He never had a babysitter: A nana or papa would just pop over if his parents needed a break. (His mom was a stay-at-home mom.) It sounds lovely, but it's different from my childhood — I had two working parents and only one living grandparent 300 miles away — and it's different from our own circumstances. Our first baby is due in four months, and we're several states away from our families. Husband is convinced that our situation is impossible, irresponsible, cruel to the child, will result in our divorce and misery, etc. He wants to move "closer to family" but cannot articulate exactly how that would help: His folks are in their 80s and mine still work full time. Furthermore, we work in industries that don't exist in either of our hometowns. There are no jobs for us there. I know we might not have the village he did growing up, but I think I turned out okay without that. I'm frustrated by him deciding we've failed before we've even tried, and by his implication that his childhood was the only right way. I guess I'm looking for a reality check: Am I the crazy one? If you didn't have a blood-related village, did you make it work? — Village-Deficient, Apparently | 
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