(Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Dear Carolyn: I am in the throes of a true dilemma with no good choices. I went through a nasty divorce when my kids were small and remarried fairly hastily. My husband brought his son into the marriage. My husband took it upon himself to help discipline all the kids and tended to have a temper and be harsh. There was yelling but no physical abuse. Fast-forward 30-plus years. My kids are in therapy and blame my husband for their unhappy childhoods and me for not doing more to prevent it. I am in therapy, too, because I never realized it was that bad, and I seem to no longer have much of a relationship with my daughters and son. I do get along with his son, his wife and their two kids, however. Mother's Day came and went: crickets. My kids feel as if I never chose them when they were younger but just wanted to keep the peace with my husband. Short of divorcing him, I (and my therapist) don't know how to make this better. But I don't want to be alone, which is probably why I married so quickly. I can't undo what has been done and wish we could move forward, but I don't know how. Please be blunt with me: What would you do? — Damned If I Do … |
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