 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Dear Carolyn: I have a 9-year-old daughter whom I adore (I'm 45). She is wonderful, smart, kind and funny. When we get along and have fun together, it's perfection. I, however, partly because of a very traumatic relationship with my mother, have a bad temper; I am prone to impatience and yelling (no hitting or anything like that). It's not that I don't know that you need to exercise patience with your kids, and that I don't have conversations with myself about it, but it keeps happening. I have gotten therapy for this and started seeing a psychologist again recently. The thing is, though, my daughter nags all the time and says "no" 100 times a day — about the healthy food I cook, about how much homework she has, taking showers, weekend plans, anything and everything. I feel like she's pushing my buttons all the time. I'm not blaming her; I'm the adult here and she's the kid. But how can I help her understand without making her think it's her fault when I yell? — L. |
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