 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Hi Carolyn: I've had my cat since college (almost 10 years). I've been dating my boyfriend for two years, I love him more than I've ever loved anyone, and we'd like to move in together. My boyfriend hates cats. Hates them. He isn't allergic (though he used to say he was, until I insisted on a test). He does have a strong aversion to them, probably from his family, who have some kind of belief that they're evil or unclean. I've sought to understand it but could never get a coherent explanation out of any of them. He jumps when the cat is in the room. And my cat is extremely affectionate, so doesn't understand why he can't come sit with us and be friends. My boyfriend is offended I won't give up the cat so he can move in. I've suggested compromises such as keeping the cat to just one part of the apartment, but he insists he needs the cat out. I feel the cat was here first so this is an unreasonable ask. My boyfriend feels if I really love him then nothing should take precedence over his moving in, and he now says my hesitance is causing him to question the foundation of the entire relationship. I cannot imagine rehoming my cat. I also can't imagine ending my relationship. Am I being unreasonable or is he? — S. | 
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