(Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Carolyn Hax is away. The following first appeared March 11, 2009. Dear Carolyn: About five years ago, I began to realize that a woman I dated 25 years earlier was someone I had stronger feelings for than I was mature enough to appreciate at the time. I had questions for her about why we hadn't blossomed into the kind of relationship I now think we both believe we were destined for. In the past five years, I've continued to have those questions, then dreams, etc., which led me to do a paid search for her address. I wrote her twice and left a voice mail. My messages have been about old friends I bumped into who reminded me of her, what I've been doing and how I'd like to hear from her. That is, nothing too serious or about what's been on my mind. I haven't received an answer. I've thought through the reasons she hasn't corresponded, and why I needed to talk with her, and am still at a loss. Would asking her my questions directly in a letter be a way to coax her to reconnect? Telling her that, apart from this midlife crisis of mine, I'm happily married and successful, and that all I want are answers? — A 30-Year-Old Question Read your responses to this week's reader questionWe asked readers to channel their inner Carolyn Hax and answer this question. |
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