 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Dear Carolyn: My mom refuses to acknowledge the upside of her marriage to my dad. He was not the best husband or father, I'll be the first to admit that. He was wrapped up in his work and left everything else to her. But now that I've entered the same branch of science he was in, I get it. It had to be that way for him to make the breakthroughs he did. My mom divorced him two years ago, and he hasn't really gotten over it. He asks me when I see him whether she misses him, and I don't know what to say. I'm not saying she can't be happy, but she makes it all too clear that she doesn't miss him and talks endlessly about this guy she's dating like he's Mr. Wonderful. I know my dad can't see it, but it's kind of sickening that my sister and I can, though my sister says my mom is entitled to be happy. I'm not saying she isn't, but tone it down a little, you know? I tried talking to her about it, presenting the good of her 23-year marriage, saying she played a part in my father's work; she enabled him to do that research and write those papers, and she can be happy and proud of that. She said that, because of her children, she wasn't sorry she married my dad, but that she wasn't sorry she divorced him, either. It's like she didn't even listen to me. So frustrating. Should I try another way to get through to her or just let it go? — Frustrated | 
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