 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Dear Carolyn: My daughter is not speaking to my mother. It's a complicated issue involving my mother interfering in her parenting, and it's been a source of contention for some time. It came to a head a few months ago, and my daughter has drawn a hard line. My mother admits she is in the wrong but says she is unable to stop her actions. These involve undermining my daughter and her husband in their parenting, of one of the children in particular. There's no danger to the child. It's simply a matter of disagreement about what the granddaughter should be allowed to do, and my mum aiding and abetting her to do it even though she knows my daughter has said no. My mother and my daughter haven't spoken for months. It's affecting everyone in the family. My mother is old, and I know if anything happened to her, my daughter would be devastated, but I have pointed that out gently and my daughter still will no longer put up with what she sees as a betrayal. I am so sad. They're both immensely stubborn, and experience tells me my interference only makes things worse. But it's going on and on, and the hardest thing is they both adore each other. Should I continue to keep out of it, or try to convince my daughter to soften her approach? My mum is wrong but she's also old and upset and it's awful. — Stuck Tell us: What's your favorite Carolyn Hax column about becoming an adult? | 
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