Carolyn Hax: Grudge over the wedding-day seating chart enters Year 8, and counting

Your daughter-in-law's family sat at the head table. You were seated behind a stairwell — and she's the one who's angry. ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌

Sign up for this newsletter Read online Advice to help you tackle life's problems.     (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) Grudge over the wedding-day seating chart enters Year 8, and counting Dear Carolyn: In pandemic anger, my daughter-in-law said she would never forgive me for something that happened at their wedding eight years ago. My husband and I were placed at a table far away from the head table. In fact, a stairwell hid us from their view entirely. We were the last table served dinner at the wedding. She had shown me the layout and I told her that was not acceptable. I went with her to the location and told her and the planner not to "put us in the corner." That is where we ended up months later at the wedding and I was hurt, humiliated and angry. I told them both how I felt three days later, as I did not want to cause a scene at the wedding. Her family was all in front at the head table. They say I ruined the memory of their special day. How do I fix this? — In a Corner Read Carolyn's Response     ADVERTISEMENT   Want more? Carolyn's been writing her advice column for two decades. Explore the archives below. Dealing with husband's affair, kids' anger — and her own need for solitude Read more »   Parents are chief messengers of inner beauty's value Read more »   Trusting a group of 18-year-olds; dodging talk about finances Read more »     Ask for advice Carolyn chats with readers every Friday afternoon. Need advice? Join Carolyn Hax's weekly chat (July 23 | 12 p.m. ET) Perspective ●  Read more »     We think you'll like this newsletter Check out Coronavirus Updates for news to help you stay safe and informed during the pandemic. Access to all stories in the newsletter is free. Sign up »

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