Carolyn Hax: Aunt unfriends niece for not inviting her to her baby shower

Her brother died 11 months ago. It felt like another death to her when she saw she wasn't invited to his daughter's baby shower. ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌

Sign up for this newsletter Read online Advice to help you tackle life's problems.     (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) Aunt unfriends niece for not inviting her to her baby shower Dear Carolyn: I recently was scrolling through my Facebook feed and saw photos of my niece celebrating at her baby shower with friends and family. I was hurt to see this post because she never invited me. I thought I had a good relationship with her. I said something to that effect on her post, and then unfriended her. Backstory is that her dad, my younger brother, passed away 11 months ago and I am his only sister. I feel like my niece is telling me I no longer am family to her. She's an adult and of course can decide who she wants in her life. It just feels like another death to me. What do you suggest? — Hurting Auntie Read Carolyn's Response     ADVERTISEMENT   Classic Hootenanny of Holiday Horrors stories We're counting down the days until the 2021 Hoot with some of our favorite stories from over the years.  Gift clapping (2006) "Carolyn! I've been waiting ALL YEAR to tell you this! Remember last year when someone said their family clapped after each gift was opened? And we all thought it was hilarious and strange? Well, last year, I told my (large) family about the clapping, and they were highly amused. They decided we should do it, too, but NOT tell my brother. So we started applauding every time someone opened a present. At first he looked really, really confused, but then he joined in as if it were completely normal. It took about 1/2 an hour before he finally stopped and said 'Ok WHAT is with the G-D CLAPPING?! Are you people DRUNK?'" The 2021 Holiday Hootenanny is coming Dec. 10. Submit your stories here. Perspective ●  By Carolyn Hax ●  Read more »     Want more? Carolyn's been writing her advice column for two decades. Explore the archives below. A husband imagines a better life with his wife's friend Read more »   Is the child-free/child-having divide between these sisters-in-law too vast? Read more »   A friendship that has run its course Read more »     We think you'll like this newsletter Check out Plant Powered by Voraciously for our 12-week guide to cooking more plant-forward meals. Recipes, techniques and tips on Tuesdays. Sign up »

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