Carolyn Hax: Daughter-in-law seeks agent to manage parents’ guilt trip

Daughter-in-law asks for help talking to her parents, who are upset that she and her husband might be moving away. ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌

Sign up for this newsletter Read online Advice to help you tackle life's problems.     (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) Daughter-in-law seeks agent to manage parents' guilt trip Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My daughter-in-law is looking at a job about a 3 1/2 hour car ride away from her parents and other family. Her parents are trying to guilt her into not moving, blaming even the thought of moving on my son — which she denies, and she has told them this. She is struggling with this and asks for my help. I have told her it is their decision, hers and my son's. Any other suggestions as to what to say? — Anonymous Read Carolyn's Response     ADVERTISEMENT   Answer this week's reader question Here's your chance to channel your inner Carolyn Hax and respond to a reader question. How to deal with feeling ashamed about pandemic weight gain? Read more »     Classic Hootenanny of Holiday Horrors stories We're counting down the days until the 2021 Hoot with some of our favorite stories from over the years.  "Naked Susan" (2018) "We have a large family and often have extend members and/or friends of family come to Thanksgiving. One year, my aunt's cousin 'Susan' came. Most of my generation hadn't met her before. We had a lovely dinner and were all hanging out in the great room of my grandparents' house. A group of us were playing a charades game and my grandparents and other more reserved family members were sitting on the couches, across the room, but within line of sight. Susan was up for charades. This version had three clues you needed your team to guess in order. She lit up when she saw her last one, and said 'I know how I'll get this!' The first two clues were pretty normal, and we guessed them fairly easily. For the last one, in two fluid movements, she took ALL of her clothes off. I mean from clothed to naked in approximately 4 seconds, underwear and all. Unfortunately for our team, this backfired as a strategy, since half the team was speechless, and the other half was literally rolling on the ground laughing. Since I'm maybe a wee bit competitive, I was still guessing, but no one could hear me over the laughter. My poor aunt was bright red over her guest stripping at her in-laws' house. The rest of us thought it was the best thing ever." Read the update on the clue here. The 2021 Holiday Hootenanny is coming Dec. 10. Submit your stories here. Perspective ●  By Carolyn Hax ●  Read more »     Want more? Carolyn's been writing her advice column for two decades. Explore the archives below. There are many ways to try to redress sins of the past Read more »   Boundaries — and benefits — when a mother reads her teens' text messages Read more »   It's a girl! One who won't be allowed to be pretty in pink. Read more »     We think you'll like this newsletter Check out Bold School for smart advice on how to get better with age, plus tried-and-true tips from our readers, every Monday and Friday for 12 weeks. Sign up »

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