Carolyn Hax: How to stop holding a grudge against people promoted over you

She feels guilty about how bitter she is toward people who were promoted over her, but who aren't doing a good job. ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌

Sign up for this newsletter Read online Advice to help you tackle life's problems.     (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) How to stop holding a grudge against people promoted over you Dear Carolyn: Several times in the past few years, leadership roles and spots in selective groups that I really wanted have gone to other people. For the most part, I am at peace with this; I had my grieving period, and I try my hardest not to let it affect my day-to-day life. However, it is very difficult to watch the people who were chosen for these positions not doing a better job than I know I could do, and not appreciating what they have been given as much as I would, when I know I was just as qualified, if not more; worked just as hard, if not more; and wanted the positions just as much, if not more. I feel guilty that I am having these snide thoughts — these people are perfectly nice and have done nothing wrong to me personally. I don't want to be the kind of person who harbors grudges and stays bitter over these things. How do I move on, so I can stop feeling so miserable? — Feeling Overlooked Read Carolyn's Response     Never miss another chat We're making it easier for you never to miss one of the Friday chats. Sign up here to receive an email right as the chat is about to start.  ADVERTISEMENT   Sign up to get an email alert when Carolyn Hax's weekly Q&A starts Read more »     Want more? Carolyn's been writing her advice column for two decades. Explore the archives below. Developing an antitoxin for the in-laws' stinging comments Read more »   Sharing in therapy; using profanity; marrying a smoker; origin stories Read more »   College student should not grovel to her long-distance friend Read more »     Ask for advice Carolyn chats with readers every Friday afternoon. Need advice? Join Carolyn Hax's weekly chat (April 1 | 12 p.m. ET) Perspective ●  Read more »     We think you'll like this newsletter Check out Lean & Fit for expert advice on how to eat right, get lean and stay fit, including curated healthy recipes every Wednesday. Sign up »

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