Carolyn Hax: Why would brother-in-law not tell you he supports your cause?

A volunteer is confused when the name of a brother-in-law who "wasn't very political" turns up as a major donor to their partisan cause. ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌

Sign up for this newsletter Read online Advice to help you tackle life's problems.     (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) Why would brother-in-law not tell you he supports your cause? Dear Carolyn: My husband and I have been together for 10 years and married for seven. I am very passionate about politics and current events, even more so after the past few years. My brother-in-law, "Brad" is silent on these topics. A few times I asked my husband what he thought and he just said Brad "wasn't very political." I volunteer for a local chapter of a national organization that aligns with my values. Last week I saw a donor list and Brad donated a substantial sum (unusual surname). I came home and asked my husband about it. I was surprised Brad has this kind of money to donate. I'm also surprised somebody who isn't very political would use their money this way. My husband did not seem surprised at all and just said that I saw the donor list as a volunteer and I shouldn't bring it into the family. I cannot shake the feeling that all of this, from Brad not being political to my husband knowing he made the donation, is really weird. Do you have any insights? — In-Law Read Carolyn's Response     ADVERTISEMENT   Want more? Carolyn's been writing her advice column for two decades. Explore the archives below. What not to do when Dad marries a virtual stranger Read more »   He'll be retiring, and she'll be resenting Read more »   Sister might be making a big mistake, but it's hers to make Read more »     We think you'll like this newsletter Check out Lean & Fit for expert advice on how to eat right, get lean and stay fit, including curated healthy recipes every Wednesday. Sign up »

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