 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Dear Carolyn: My wife and I had our first child last year, and every day since, I have felt as if I'm drowning. I never wanted to be a workaholic like my dad, but my career — which I'm proud of and worked hard to achieve — simply requires 50 hours a week. At the end of the day I need several hours to myself to recharge, but that means I'm not seeing our baby and my wife is basically a single parent. This riddles me with guilt: She has a full-time job, too. We're hundreds of miles from our nearest family and never get a break. I do not see any possible way I can continue to be both a husband and father and a worker, but thinking of abandoning any of those roles (via divorce or a different job) leaves me filled with resentment and a sense of failure. So I just white-knuckle it through every week, exhausted and snapping at my wife and generally hating my life. Please help me figure out what to do. My wife thinks I'm suffering from anxiety and depression, but I don't think so: I think we've created a life that is genuinely impossible for me, and it's the circumstances that need to change, not me. So what should change? — Dad Drowning Every Day | 
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