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Carolyn Hax: If one spouse cheats, does the other get a freebie affair?

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If one spouse cheats, does the other get a freebie affair?

Adapted from an online discussion.

Dear Carolyn: My wife cheated on me recently, and it hurts. I can't get the image out of my head. It feels like the worst conversation ever: "Hey, I really like you and want to be with you," to which they respond, "Hey, I would rather be with someone else."

I feel like I should have the chance to have an affair of my own. I know that sounds ugly, but I miss the time when I thought she loved me as much as I love her — and I don't know that's true anymore if I think there's nobody else I want to be with and she thinks, well, obviously not that.

She says that would be the end of our relationship, so I feel stuck. And I can't go to my family for advice because they aren't on board with my sexuality (which is a whole different problem). Please help.

— Anonymous

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