Carolyn Hax: Fiancée expects full support in grudge with her parents

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Sign up for this newsletter Read online Advice to help you tackle life's problems.     (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) Fiancée expects full support in grudge with her parents Dear Carolyn: My fiancée has a real chip on her shoulder when it comes to her family. I actually like my in-laws a lot, and this seems to annoy her because she complains constantly about how they have never met her emotional needs, have treated her unfairly compared to her siblings, etc. While I do not want to question the validity of her experience, I really do think she views their entire relationship through a lens of her own insecurity. For example, her parents heading upstairs to bed at 9 p.m. when we were visiting was interpreted as their not wanting to spend time with her versus just being people who like to go to bed early. I have tried to gently suggest she not see malice where there is none, but she gets very defensive and says that if I am going to marry her, then I have to be in her corner 100 percent. And I am! But does being supportive of someone mean I always have to just comfort her when I think some of her injuries are of her own making? — Supportive? Read Carolyn's Response     ADVERTISEMENT   Want more? Carolyn's been writing her advice column for two decades. Explore the archives below. Misguided advice for someone going through divorce Read more »   Trying to get a laid-back beau to be more like driven dad Read more »   A control freak, and dishonest to boot? Read more »     We think you'll like this newsletter Check out Must Reads for a curated selection of our best journalism in your inbox every Saturday, plus a peek behind the scenes into how one story came together. Sign up »

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