 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Dear Carolyn: A long while ago, I was having a catch-up coffee with someone I knew back in high school, and she asked me why I used to pick on her. (I used to tease her about a certain body part.) I am ashamed to say it didn't occur to me until she asked that I'd been a bully back then — her bully. Among several other glaring character flaws this points to. I can't remember exactly how I responded — maybe I actually said the words "I'm sorry"? — but I don't *feel* like I truly apologized. Since that conversation, I've thought a lot about why I was "that [glass bowl]" back then, and I've written out an apology. I wonder whether I should send it to her. Maybe sending it just causes her to re-experience the pain I caused her. Also, years have passed — not just since high school, but since that conversation. Maybe my apology is too little, too late? Plus: I'm a writer, and I've been working on an essay for publication that would include the apology. She may never see it, but she might — she's a writer, too — and if she does, she'd quite possibly recognize that it's about her. What do you think? Should I share it with her? We haven't spoken since that conversation, though we're friends still on social media. — Too Little, Too Late? | 
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